...let me count the ways

Yesterday was a BLAST! I ate good food, drank good drinks, and hung with good people!  But I won't forget to shoutout how Friday started like straight doo-doo (had a meeting with the principal at 9am, she didn't even know about it so I knew I was good.) but it ended with me feeling VICTORIOUS (which bled into Saturday)!

At 5:05 on Friday, I was out of the school doors and on my way to a co-workers house.  5 of us convinced our shuttle driver to drop us off at her door instead of taking us to the train or bus. WIN!
We went to a bodega, got some chasers for the teq, whiskey, and vodka she already had at the house and then we straight chilled. peach punch and smirnoff for me. Ordered Chinese food and simply vibed! Yo, if I had to choose between chilling at a house and going to a club, 8 out of 10 times, I'd choose a house.  We listened to music and had a good time.  Oh, her roommate is a professional make-up artist so she brings home ISH tons of samples and giveaways.  YOINK on products!

We didn't leave Maia's house till 11pm. I got home after missing both the train and bus. half an hour later knocked.out.

Enter Saturday.  I was supposed to go to zumba at 1130 but I told Abs that was too late in the day.  How? Seeing how I wake up at 6am on the weekends, by 1030, I'm sleepy again.  And because it's Saturday, I have the luxury of going back to sleep, so I did. After I ate my leftover Chinese food.

Wake up, decide I need to get my hair washed, legs waxed, and feet done. But I get a text from Lish.  We've been talking about the GM fest at Prosp Park all week and decided to troll around in case someone wanted to give away (or even scalp their free ticket.)  It happened, but the guy only had one ticket so we declined :-(  Spent most of the day walking around the ginormous park that was way too easy for me to get to! I'm disappointed in myself for not going more often!  Oh well, summer is almost here and I'm going BEAST MODE.

OH! I met the guitar player from the Roots! He was just walking down the street with his guitar on his back and I stopped him! "Captain Kirk! Can I take a picture with you?!!?" *CHEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSEEEE*


After Lish and I pretty much walk the perimeter of the park, we meet up with BooThang.  He's done with walking so we hop in a cab to the BurritoBar and Kitchen. It was PACKED inside and out but we were able to be seated right away.  This bangin arse steak burrito was about to be housed by yours truly.  It was almost gross how I ate the whole gigantic thing.  With a fork and knife too LMMFAO!! But can I tell you about their pomegranate marg?  Made with pomegranate juice ice cubes? It was LIKE.THAT. The other two started out with coconut and traditional margs but ended up ordering FIVE MORE of the pomegranate ones! Yeah! I knew my limits and stuck with one. LOL  Cinco de Mayo was not that far away #NeverForget.

The night is still young.  Lish texts a guy she met at my Cinco de Mayo bar crawl and he's in the city at a latin spot.  MORE MARGS ON DECK!  We hop in a cab to Manhattan then arrive at Gonzalez y Gonazlez.  I decided on a sangria this time and it was good!  We're there enjoying the music; I do a little latin two step to the live music and think, "Okay. I will never be Hispanic enough to really enjoy this place." Lish's buddy (Kristian) takes us to two other spots before we come to the conclusion "We're tired." Leaving Man at 1am after a fun-filled Saturday with my lovies, I don't even want to know what's going to happen in the DR this summer!!

Ole!!!

What do you do when someone tells you, "You don't need me, you think you're better than me."

a) blink
b) agree with them
c) disagree with them
d) all of the above

I bubbled in 'd'.  Here's the backstory.

Went to Hampton, transferred to FAM, caught the eye of a guy in COE with me.  fast forward 5-6 years later, we're chatting on the phone and it's going okay. He asks me how I feel about him and I hit him with the, "damn lil... I haven't talked to you in about 5 years..."  I don't know why he's so pressed but I eventually find out he's been checking for me since our days in College of Ed but I wasn't checking for him, "You thought you were too good for me since you came from Hampton."

Here we go again.  I thought it was just a Norfolk State thing.  Does every state school hate Hampton?

I reassured him with what my dad told me long ago, "I don't think I'm better than anyone, I just know no-one is better than me."

c) disagree with them

Anyway, in later conversations, he mentions me being engaged to a white guy. I told him that was in the past, I'm moving on from that, let's keep it moving.  Then he hits me with the "Oh, so the black man wasn't good enough to marry, you had to find you a white man."

a) blink


"Mr. Blackman, that was years ago. And since you brought it up, let me tell you about your brethren i've encountered thus far along the way..."

But here's his, "Well, I'm not all black men so don't put me in that category."
"I didn't. But your insecurities are about to get you added to the list of Failed Black Men in Stacey's Life".

Blah, blah, blah, we talk some more, something that was an inside joke became unfunny and we fell out, ONLY after he had this whole lemon squeeze about me glorifying Hampton even though I graduated from FAMU, how I need to find me another white guy cause i don't know how to talk to black men, how I need to find myself, Uncle Thomasina, how he's getting his PhD so I can finally be impressed since it's apparent just regular ass teachers are not good enough, and on and on and on.

I looked at my phone in disbelief.  Then I went in on him.

I don't even remember what I said cause it was 115am and I was just tired of him and his whining. I do remember saying, "If you think I'm better than you, it's cause I am. Is that what you wanted to hear? Do you feel better now? I hope so. Let the world know that I am better than Jonathan!" and then I told him to leave me alone cause I don't have time for bitchassness.

b) agree with them






WTF?