Independence Party

yes, in the middle September!

Who: Adei the Free

What: Independence Celebration

Where: 2.3 miles away from the Den

When: September 12, 2009

Why: cause the Emancipation was proclaimed 147 years ago but it still applies today!

Come to my new abode!

Wear Red, White, and or Blue! yes, I'm giving you a dress code! I want to see how creative you can be!! I just might open the door in a throwback Tommy Fit! Wha- what?!!?

Matter of fact, I think I want a Living Single theme... yesssss! That sounds sooooo much funner!!!! Ooooh! Come in your best 90's fit! I think I will channel Aaliyah with the boxers and baggy jeans!

or maybe Jade from 1992... where can I find combat boots??

Zhane? complete with choker. Gotta have a choker.

Living Single. Longsleeve striped bodysuit with a vest on top. Floral print dress. anything mustard colored, flannel shirt.

Shayne, you have to dress like Kyle Barker. PLEASE! or Jodeci.

Trippin

Jameil got me a subscription to GQ for Christmas. Why haven't I received the last 2 issues?? I haven't seen Tatum and I went out and BOUGHT the 'MJ Was Cool' one. Word? That's how we do our patrons??

TRIPPIN.

I have a child in my class who not only spilled milk on his neighbor during lunch BUT ALSO used a straw to pour juice down his same neighbor's back. My questions:

1. where were the lunch monitors?

2. how do you let someone pour liquid on you TWICE?

3. what is wrong with this little boy!?!

TRIPPIN

My mom has let it be known that she will extend her vacay by a month. Now keep in mind, she's already been gone for 1/4 of the year, she's trying to make it a third. WOMAN! You have a husband and dog at home!!! You are NOT retired! Bring your A back!!

TRIPPIN

Halfway being nice and halfway being annoyed and wanting her to stop bothering the fluck out of me, I let my sister use my ID when she was home last week. Got to Orlando to check into the hotel when I realized the monkey trick still has my shit. Text her to send it ASAP and of course some bullish excuse was the reply.

TRIPPIN

I can't get another one online b/c I have an unpaid ticket i need to take care of 1st. Yes, I'm back in "misda what?" territory. One day, I'll get right.

That's all I have for you guys right now. I'll holla.

Photogs were ON IT!

Uh-Oh. This is why I say no flats after 7pm. Cause they might look like hers. You don't wanna win!!!

The next 3 are my FAVORITE shots from the party!! Those photogs were on it! These looks like some incriminating shots on GMO or FBY!!! LMAO!!!I need some funny captions...

Adei and her secret lover meet on a rooftop and share a passionate hug as he whispers something in her ear.

Adei stands coyly and smiles from ear-to-ear once she hears the good news! Stay tuned to find out what it is!

Adei and her unknown man rock out to their favorite song as he keeps her close! Spies at the event say they never left eachother's side and were in their own world!

OW!!! I love this shot!!!! I think they should play this song at their next party when I come thru...
Yes, shoes!!

FINALLY!

Can you guess why I'm cheesing so hard?? Cause I'm FINALLY here!! I am FINALLY in my new place! I am in a fully and fabulously furnished 1 bedroom condo!

I just took a shower and it felt so good.

I am about to warm up some food I made at S. Lakes and call it a night. Maybe I'll have a chocolate martini to help me sleep better.

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Why I Love Saturday

good things happen on the day of my birth :-)

(The pics are in reverse order.)

Mike and his brother, stuntin in red and black

Flat shoes need to stay home after 7pm.

So the WHOLE crew missed the memo? Really white shorts?! You look like you're going shopping on So.Be!! And yellow, where are you going with that GINORMOUS satchel!? I see it's Gu.cci but still...

Me and the host. I wish the person taking the picture got a body shot so you could see my shoes. They were RED HAUTE!

The missed memo crew plus their GROWN homie with her thigh out!

The yellow really killed me. At least the Harvey Legger and turquoise dresses were evening appropro. and look at Kenny looking like Knee-Yo!!

The woman dancing with my brother shot me a look when I wanted to take a picture of just him. so I let her keep dancing with him.

Rooftop pics. The white is blinding.

Rev. "Till Def do us Part" Easley in the pink and black. I don't think men of the cloth had pinstripe cloth in mind.

FAMU Alums about to jump the broom.

Now for some reason, this white tux wedding was MUCH better than the one I went to in April. I guess M. Stewart Weddings (magazine) was right, people remember the reception and entertainment more than the actual wedding. This reception was done well. No caterers were walking around with raggedy t-shirts, handing out bottles of water; I didn't have to throw my own plate away, CHEFS and their staff were on hand for every whim (more champagne, please!), there was an actual cocktail hour followed by a sit down dinner... yeah. I wanted to ride but it was nice. My only qualm was the fake bouquets and bouts. But guess what? That was one cost they didn't have to worry about. And at the end of the day, they are married! Isn't that the goal? This wedding made me think about a lot of things I want and if they are really necessary.

Travel Away

In September, I will be flying into Atlanta for the 3rd time this year. It would be the 4th if we got our wedding invite in time...What is up with that city and me?! "They calling me..." Oh! Never mind that I spent New Year's there and flew out on the 3rd of January 2009...!! Wow.

I plan on catching a Dallas game in Dallas this year. Yep, I'm already looking into plane tickets. And while I'm there, you know I gotta check out the area.

I asked my dad if we're going to Ghana next summer. He said he wasn't sure. That was confirmation for me to start planning my summer 2010. Brazil, anyone? Me and the homie (Kitty) are speaking it into existence right now!

This Christmas break, Drew was talking about an all inclusive trip to DR, CR, or Mexico. Sounds like a plan! and if that doesn't happen, me and the homie (Kitty, of course) are talking Vegas. Man, I've been wanting to go since Summer 2002. Dad was hating, talking about, "You and Mari (homegirl) are too young to be out there by yourselves." BOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Now everyone has jumped on the Vegas wagon and has been there except me, *hmph*

Since I will not be doing FAM's Homecoming this year (last year was WACK), I was thinking about hitting up another HBCU's. I was told that Hampton, Spelhouse, Clark (?), and Howard all have theirs the same weekend. Oh yeah, throw FAM into that mix. Wow. I don't want ALL the powerhouse HBCU's to have it on the same weekend!!! That's no fun!! I will NOT do Spelhouse or Clark cause then I might as well get it over with and move to Atlanta. Now it's a battle of the HU's... duh Duh DUH! *to be continued, in ominous narrator voice*

I want to go to Montana. For no particular reason. I just like the way it sounds.

I have to go to SXSW this year. My body and soul was hurting last year. I peeped that joint when I went to Austin in 2005 and last year, everybody and they momma was there as if it was an NBA all-star game. I couldn't go to the smoking section for a while cause I was filled with jealousy. yeah, I said it. Ghost, Tip, ALL MY FAVORITE RAPPERS WERE THERE! WAAAAAAH!!! It was like Dave Shappelle's Block Party :-( Daaaaaaaaaaahh!!!

I really need to get a Delta sky miles account. I used to fly US Air all the time... SPEAKING OF WHICH... I NEED TO REDEEM MY MILES!!

Okay y'all, I'm out to move some more things. And I think I need another shoes away thing. Oh yeah, those things are raggedy. waaaaay too flimsy. But, I guess they get the job done. Just not as neat/structured as I thought they would be.

Nuptial Updates *updated*

1.

Tomorrow, I'll be attending the wedding of a person I don't like. He's my brother's best friend and he's a neighbor. I am going ONLY b/c the groomsmen are wearing white tuxes. You know how much I love a white tux wedding!

There is irony in the previous statement. I've come to hate white tuxes so much that I love seeing them cause their ghetto fabulousness make me squirm with snobby fashionista glee.

Yeah, all that.

So yeah, 'men are wearing white and brown, 'maids are wearing brown dresses with pink sashes, bride is wearing white with pink sash and the groom is wearing white with pink vest/tie.

I.can't.wait.

2.

Remember that August wedding I haven't gotten an invite for? Godmom called today to ask for my address so I can get mine!!! Ummm, she's getting married the last week in August and you're just now asking for my addy? Well, it turns out, since we're unlisted in the phone book, the bride-to-be's aunt couldn't find our address to send us one. It took her this long to call someone who knows our phone number to get our addy!! Argh!! I found out the wedding is in Atlanta... at little upset about that cause she was born and raised here so why not have the wedding in your hometown? And your dad is an elder in one of the oldest baptist churches in West Palm? Well, whatever floats her boat.

3.

Drew is turning 30 next July. The plan was to be married before his 30th birthday but last night, I realized, "What's the rush?" I will be living by myself for the 1st time ever and if I like it, I may want to do it for another year. In another state. Yeah, TX is still on my mind HARD so I think... I will be there next school year. Maybe next two school years. we shall see :-)

4.

All the wedding and engagement updates on FB have been replaced with baby showers. Everyone born in 1982 has spawned sometime in the past 6 months or will have multiplied within the next 6 months. I just don't want my eggs to dry up before I finish doing me. I will be sad if there can't be any mini Me's :-(

UPDATE: I spoke too soon. Just saw my best friend all thru elementary and middle school is now engaged.

I'm not a Hater...

I'm a cynical hater.

*

So my younger sister, my 19 y.o. sister has an album on FB called "Impatient Little African Girl + Webcam + Lost Pics = [Mini Me]

first of all, the name of that album is too long.

secondly, I went thru all 29 pics of solo shots of her sitting in front of a web camera. I'm not sure if it was done on a mac...nevermind, I know it wasn't. Anyway, being the big sister I am, I left some comments.

In what I think was supposed to be her 'swanky' head shot, I said,

"Is there an unlike option on here?"

In the next one, she's making the fish face (when you pucker the sides of your mouth in) and I said,

"nope"

The next shot, she's looking up and captioned the photo, "Aww, My Little African Girl" I retorted,

"She's so poetic"

The "sexy" face shot where she has one eyebrow raised, I said

"That's the sexy face, isn't it? You see that raised eyebrow"

*lol right now*

By the 18th picture, she has some top model handsy pose... I had a field day.

"I wish I had two more hands so I can give this one 4 thumbs down"

By now, she's had it with me and comes with,

"Ummm, you really need to get a life"

"Hmm, I think I will sit in front of a camera and take hella pics of myself. That sounds like a good life"

"Or maybe I was bored and was waiting for Ley so I was killing time. What's your excuse?"

"1. I don't have an album with 29 pics of myself. 2. Whatever, Ms. "My life is so full cause I take tons of amateur pics of myself"

"Ms. I have nothing better to do that to be a cynical hater"

Good comeback, Mini Me.

African Daddy

I already posted how it went when I told my dad I'm moving. That was a little over a week ago. Well Monday (I think), he actually "put his foot down" and said in an African Daddy Voice,

"I DON'T want you to move"

*snickering now. it wasn't funny then*

I rolled my eyes (not facing him of course) and asked, "Why not, Dad?"

SIDENOTE: when he's cool, he's Pops. When he's trippin, he's Dad.

"Cause there is no need for you to move. Just give it one more ye-."

and then I went off.

"ONE MORE YEAR?!!? THAT'S THE LAST THING I WANT TO HEAR!!! ONE MORE YEAR WILL GO BY AND GUESS WHAT? I'LL BE 40 WONDERING WHERE THE TIME WENT AND WHAT I DID WITH MY LIFE! ONE MORE YEAR IS THE LAST THING I EVER WANT TO HEAR CAUSE THAT MEANS I'M NOT HAPPY BUT WILL SETTLE... FOR ONE MORE YEAR! I'M OVER THAT YEAR ALREADY! IT'S BEEN THREE MORE YEARS! NO!"

I think I scared him. he had both hands in the air with the, "ok ok ok okaaaaay"

Yeah nigga, you hit a sore spot... one more year. Chile, boo.

This morning, for whatever reason, he asked me,

"Where are all your clothes?"

"At my new place"

"Where is it?"

"In West Palm Beach"

"When are you moving in?"

"Whenever"

"Who's your roommate?"

"Don't have one"

"Alright"

I think his feelings are hurt. I think he's taking it personally. I think he's offended that I would be in the same city as but not live with my parents. This isn't Ghana. It's okay for your daughter to leave the house and not jump straight into her husband's home. He was all quiet this morning... he is really hurt that I don't want to be here anymore. oh! Here's another convo

"So, did you register for grad school at UAF?"

"Nope."

"Why not? I said I'll help you"

"Cause I don't plan on being her for the two years it'll take to complete my degree"

"And where are you going?"

"I don't really know but I know this is my last year in West Palm Beach. I've been here 2 years too many"

"What is that supposed to mean?"

"It means I don't want to be in the same place I grew up. It means I am a bit resentful that came down here and I am STILL here. It means that I will NOT be here next year"

then he came with the..

"Well, that's even more reason to stay home and save your money so you can move wherever you want next year"

"Not happening. I'm out"

I so didn't expect this from him. now watch Lyds be the cool one about it, when she finally gets back from Ghana!

Humble Pie, anyone?

Adei von K: I want to get a tattoo this Friday

DreezyFBaby: What are you going to get? an apple?

AVK: No on the apple. I'm not telling

DFB: Don't get my name. I don't like that

AVK: lmao!

DFB: that's weird

AVK: I wasn't going to get your name!!! LMAO!

DFB: ok

AVK: LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!! LMAO!!!!!

AVK: LOLOLOLOLOL!!!!! Oh Drew!!! Did you think I'd really do that!?!?!?

AVK: LOLOLOLOLOL!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

AVK: I love that you told me not to get your name!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

DFB: ok

AVK: LMAO!!!!! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

DFB: haha

AVK: *whoo* now THAT was a good laugh. Don't get your name... LOLOLOLOLOL

DFB: ok

*snickering*

Who do these guys think they are!?!?!?

Breaking News

Told Pops abt my move. Here's what he said,

"I don't think you should move, I'll clean up the room and put a full bed in there so it can be a real bedroom for you."

"I don't think you should move. You know Vanessa? She has some nurse friends who live by themselves and one night, someone was watching and forced her into her own house."

"You really shouldn't move if you don't have to. You have plenty of time to face hardships if that's what you're looking for."

"Don't you have bills to pay? Stay home and focus on those."

"You should save your money to use for all the traveling you will do."

Really, dad?

I don't think you guys know what happened for me to come to FAMU. Well, it all stemmed from my (then troublesome) brother (thankfully) graduating from high school and ONLY applying to one school, FAMU. That much, most of you know. But I didn't want to leave HU.

This is going to be a of stream of consciousness portion. Please don't pay attention to the structure.

Well, in the first place, I didn't want to go there cause I'd never heard of it and was sent there on recommendation of my godsister's godmother. Secondly, I WANTED TO GO TO FAMU! Whatever the case, I end up at HU and LOVE it. LOVE it. Having a scholarship helped. Well, I didn't maintain a 3.3 so I lost my scholarship. Oh well. Sophomore year rolls around and I am having the time of my life. Then comes the end of spring semester when I find out I'll be going to FAMU.

"We need you to look out for your brother"

"He needs to look out for himself!"

"What if we buy you a car?"

"I don't need a car to fly from Hampton"

"And you can live in a townhouse"

"Okay."

Then the following year, we get a house.

The point I'm making is: I WAS BRIBED TO LEAVE HU!!! AND NOW MY DAD IS TRYING TO CONVINCE ME TO STAY HOME!!!! I AM 27!!!! WHEN WILL I EVER BE RESPONSIBLE FOR MYSELF??? WHEN WILL I EVER HAVE THE CHANCE TO LIVE ALONE?!? WHEN WILL I EVER BE STACEY AND NOT MY BROTHER'S KEEPER?

I just want to do me for real. I felt like I was "got" into coming back to West Palm and this year is going to be my last! Let's make it my own. I want 27 to be awesome and fabulous, even if it is in West Palm... and 2.3 miles away from home...and I have to take out my own trash.

Monday Mindspacing

But it's Tuesday!!!!

Live on the edge a little, guys.

1. As you may or may not know, I'm at my brother's place somewhere in the central part of southern florida. Like, right under Lake Okeecho.bee. If you imagined there are mosquitos galore, you are absolutely correct!!

2. His place is awesome. I really wish I could bring people here. It's like a country inn resort. Maybe I'll take pix and upload them via twits.

3. I've never been a fan of the Atlanta Classic but considering my affinity for that southern piece of HEAVEN grows with each visit, I think I will go this year!! And I know how to use the TARMA? Oh, it is ON!!

4. I really want to wear smocked dresses for a looooooooooong time. Stank actually made a comment abt them the other day, "How many of those do you have? I guess they are the perfect dress, huh?" They sure are!

5. I am kiiiiinda looking forward to the school year starting.

*cringe*

I feel like my remaining 2 weeks are going to go by a warp speed now that I've put that in the universe...

6. There are 4 celebs that I follow on Twitr. I had to remove E.Dabu cause something is going on in that brain of hers and I didn't want to and couldn't stand to be privy to it. I removed Talib cause I remembered I liked Mos more. Lastly, I removed Joel McHail cause he's so much funnier on TV. All that's left is Ghostface (my boo!) Estelle (my british boo!) Johnny Boy, and Steven Colbert (huh-larious!).

7. I have a sudden LOVE for soft tacos. I mean, I've always liked them but now I want them ALL THE TIME!! I think I will make them tonight. I blame Jameil. She made some the last night we were in ATL and they were AWESOME. Quite simply, awesome.

8. Everyone wants to know where I'm going before school starts. I've been away more than home this summer and the question I get from Pops, Stank, Mini Me, other relatives and even some teachers is,"So where's the next place you're going? You still have time!" Word?! Don't let me find a cheap ticket to the Queen City cause it'll be on like popcorn! If I planned properly, I'd be there now. Then again, it's more fun to be spontaneous in the summer! Who knows where I'll be before Aug 6

9. Would you be offended if someone asked you to be a hostess at their wedding?? That question as be PLAGUING me the past couple of days!! I guess I need to know what role the hostess plays... what does she do, guys?

10. There are TWO wedding invites I haven't recieved yet and I'm not too happy about it. One of them is for a wedding in August and the other is for September. I'll be VERY hurt abt the August one. The September one, not so much. I know I'm going to that with or without an invite.

11. One for the road: In J-Hud's latest song, who is that guy HOLLERING "Worldwide" (or whatever he says) in the beginning?! OMG, he IRKS me!! I HATE that part! What does it do for the song?! Absolutely NOTHING! And then the ATL "oh!" thruout the chorus?? Sooooooooooo not a fan. The song is wack and I kinda think she is too. yeah, I'm talking about a pregnant woman.

12. speaking of preg chicks, WHYYYYYY do celebs deny being pregnant??? Is it to build more intrigue? Have people wondering about you? To keep your name in peoples' mouths?? It took her Dreamgurls co-star (A. Rose)to put it out there! Maybe they are afraid of losing the baby? I know when J-Lope FINALLY announced she was expecting it was like, "in other news, Tupac Shakr has been shot". Whatever.

No Ma'am

Cause Rocking the Reception is so passe'...

Any takers??

Patti, you're up to bat!!!

Last Year

I found my own place. Actually, it kind of found me and I've been thinking SUPER DUPER hard about it. I finally gave in, realizing I'm not going to Tally for grad school, I'm not moving to Austin, Texas, and I'm not moving to Fairfax County, VA.

*sigh*

that was so hard to type and see in print

Anyway, a teacher I know from the school I used to work at literally up and moved... like, put a message out on FB she needed a person IMMEDIATELY cause she's moving to NY in 10 days. I responded I wanted to check it out. I was sure I'd LOVE it cause she's a white version of me. Yeah, her place is EVERYTHING my dreams are made of. I'm actually beside myself right now...

Me: Whatchu doin over there?

Me: nothing, just posting on my blog. why are you beside me?

Me: cause we're getting our own place.

Me: oh yeah! August 10th, right?

Me: OMG, that is so soon. Luckily, I only have to bring my clothes cause the place is BEYOND fully furnished.

Yeah, ole girl was trying to get THE fluck out of here. She only took her clothes and her Wii. I have dishes, linens, detergent, I HAVE FREAKING GODIVA CHOCOLATE LIQUEUR IN THE CABINET!

So you ask why she left? Her brother's best friend has been crushing on her his whole life. She's always seen him as an older brother but last WMC, they had dinner in South Beach and really hit it off. He told her all that has been on his heart and she said, "Why not? I'm 31 and this is the opportunity of a lifetime." Oh yeah, buddy is a sports agent and has his own firm. Evander Holyfield is one of his clients. Yeah, Kim had a message from Holyfield on her voicemail. They're flying to see him box in So. Africa. Ben took her to Tiffany's and told her to pick anything she wants.

CAN WE SAY DREAM SEQUENCE!?!?!?

but she picks this necklace. you can buy your own silver!!! get something else!

Anyway, she's living the life with someone who adores her and I'm about to do the same... by myself :-)

SWITCH!

Villainess

That's how I'm chillin-ess.

My dad and brother come and go all day. Me? I sit in the sitting room (what else would I do here?) and play on the laptop. I jam to some iToons; flit between FB and tweeting, comment on pix or reply @s. Then there's my eyePod :-)

Brother: Oh, you got games on your ipod and don't how to act now?

Me: Don't hate. Have you ever played endless Bejeweled?

Anyway, the most pressing thing on my mind right now is what I'm going to wear to MJQ when some bloggers and I go to the A. Oh yeah, what the hell am I going to do with my hair?? I need something funky and fresh. But I don't know what to do with it. My hair is always longer than I think it is and grows so fast. A style I did last month wouldn't work next week. Decisions, decisions...

what do you think?? I'm looking at the 3rd and 4th pics

Also, I need to eat.

I'm Back

Sorry for the delay. Two days after my MJJ died, I left town and didn't really have internet handy. Plus, I was trying to stay away cause the coverage of his death was too much. Y'all already know I was done. I almost called of my trip to the A and Mississippi cause I just wanted to mourn and listen to MJ. Rah asked Jam if I was still coming... I ALMOST DIDN'T!!

As you may or may not know, I've been in Jackson, Mississippi for about a week. I got to hang out with Jameil, her mom AND grandmother :-) I had a blast! Just chillin and seeing and eating... so what summer vacation is supposed to be about. and you already know Jameil and I make fun WHEREVER we go...

in Atlanta. (i am in LOVE with my bang!!!)

in Jackson. the heat made a Kate out of me. no swoop.

the infamous pig ear meal
we be grubbin!

me leaving. smiling on the outside :-(


yeah, we eat for fun

*BAWLING*

MICHAEL JACKSON IS DEAD.

Jaw Dropped

everything I've done since last Thursday just cleared my bank account.

at the same time.

JAW DROPPED

the hair appt, eyePhone for Pops, chic-fillet, gas, and pedicure from last Thursday

the oil change and new freaking tire, gas, mcD's, three plane tickets, more gas, and Mexican happy hour from Friday

ATM withdrawal from Saturday

and the wahlmart purchase from yesterday.

JAW DROPPED

iHop meal and the gas bought on Sunday hasn't even began to process yet.

*pouting*

I don't want to play anymore.

Where the freak is my AmX?